" THE MATRIARCH & HER GRANDCHILDREN"

FRACTURED FAMILY

          " THE MATRIARCH & HER      
             GRANDCHILDREN "
The matriarch dedicated her life not only to the welfare, success, development and growth of her own children, but also to that of her own grandchildren.

In her words, " Before they were  even born, I have already made the decision that they would be beneficiaries of part of my legacies ".

So, she wove a very close-knit with all her grandchildren and great-grandchildren with thread of love and care, so much so that she preferred them to oversee her burial when she kicks the bucket.

But this preference of hers came not without resentment from her daughter, Lady Eberechukwu Azuaru  of all persons who felt slighted by her choice.

In one of our telephone conversations, she painfully and sorrowfully complained, " Mama slapped me in the face"

"Auntie how do you mean?"

She replied,  "Mama said her grandchildren would bury her when she dies".

Mama had a very cordial relationship with her grandchildren was my response to her.

Her reply, " Who are her grandchildren?"

My response, " So you don't know she has grandchildren?"

Her answer, " Are my children included as her grandchildren?"

Auntie, "All I know is that she has grandchildren, if you are not aware of this fact,  it is not my funeral".

I continued,  "Mama was so resentful of you and chief because of your malicious behavior toward her, now  that she was no more, she and her son would not need the fund  anymore. When she needed it, you withheld it".

She replied, "Uzodimma, the position you assumed in mama's life has made her not do my biddings without first seeking your approval".

My response,  " I did not assume any position in her life, it is a natural phenomena. I have a cordial relationship with her".

Her response," If I do not tell you these, who will?"  "A ga m aso gi anya?"

Auntie,  " This hegemonic cult in this family must be dismantled".


When it was also revealed that it were her  grandchildren that she had told her burial place, it did not go down well with Chief Orisa.

But nature will always have its course, come what may.


The place and role of grandchildren in the lives of their grandparents can never be overemphasized.We are the heartbeat of every family .

"GLOSSARY "
"A ga m aso gi anya?"  
" Will I pussyfoot?"
"Will I mince words?"
"Will I pull punches?







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